The 4 S’s That Can Bring Structure In Your Life

Written By:

Leah Marone LCSW

Written By:

Leah Marone LCSW

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Having some structure in life is extremely important if you want to live a healthy, happy and productive life. Structure helps bring clarity and also helps you to build the confidence you need to live the life you have always envisioned for yourself. 




Key Points:
Pay attention to sleep, sugar, sweat, and silence to stay on a healthy track.
How we were raised greatly impacts our ability to create structure and care for ourselves.
Implementing some predictability and sense of control positively impacts your health.

It is a well-known fact that people thrive with some degree of structure. Establishing some sort of rhythm or routine helps us feel safe, accomplished, and focused.

There are individuals who adopt a lifestyle that is highly structured and when it is challenged, can feel lost or unproductive. Others might implement some structure, but maintain a strong desire to live spontaneously and embrace the unpredictability of life.



Think back to your childhood. Did your caregivers establish a routine that encouraged independence, but also provided security? Did others around you take care of themselves physically and emotionally and which inspired you to do the same?

Or were you raised in an environment that was highly unpredictable or chaotic and unfortunately encouraged anxiety or uneasiness? If not, don’t fret, many of us regardless of how structured we were prior to 2020 have been incredibly challenged due to the unpredictability of the pandemic.

Regardless of whether or not you have your days completely mapped out or you are struggling to find your toothbrush in the morning, the 4 S’s (Sleep, Sugar, Sweat, and Silence) can be used as a guide to simplify the art of structuring yourself in a healthy, constructive way.




Remember, it is not about rigidity, but understanding what you need to thrive, feel safe, and build confidence.

Related: 9 Steps That Can Build Your Self-Confidence

The 4 S’s Of Structure

1. Sleep

Sleep is your ultimate reset and must be made a priority. Start by establishing a routine that does NOT include your device, sugar/caffeine, or intense/emotional conversations. You will begin to notice positive shifts in your patience, motivation, and mindset.

2. Sugar

Unfortunately, sugar is everywhere. It is highly addictive and incredibly difficult for most to limit or omit from their lives. Be mindful and begin to identify your behavior patterns. When do you typically crave and consume foods or drinks with sugar?

Protect your mornings and evenings and perhaps use these blocks of time as ‘no-sugar zones.’ What you put into your body and when, truly does impact your hormone levels, mood, and cognitive functioning.

3. Sweat

Some type of movement every day is key. Changing up our blood flow and increasing our body temperature has amazing effects on your body and mind. You don’t necessarily have to break a sweat every day.




Practicing yoga or participating in a step challenge can be just as effective. Your body is your sacred tool and on your team. Remember to nurture it daily!

Related: 9 Ways How Simple Morning Exercise Can Boost Your Productivity

4. Silence

Setting aside at least a few minutes every day without distraction positively impacts our mental health and ability to be present in life.

Whether you meditate, unplug from your device, or take a quiet walk, your level of self-awareness will increase. This alone time gives you an opportunity to reflect and connect with yourself which is so important and takes practice.

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The past year or so has constantly reminded us of the fact that we ultimately do not have control over much. Our freedom lies in how we respond and how we attempt to care for ourselves. Focus on creating a structure and establishing boundaries that encourage hope and motivation, rather than stress and a sense of defeat.

I facilitate 6-week virtual female empowerment groups and will be launching another one in Jan. We will discuss topics such as: Resilience, Imposter Syndrome, Managing Stress and Anxiety, Maintaining Personal/Professional Boundaries, Giving and Receiving Feedback, and Preventing Burnout.

I am a mental wellness consultant and work with companies/organizations to create a culture that supports mental health and increasing productivity and connections within the organization. I have several different packages and am also willing to conduct one-off trainings or Q&As on a variety of topics around managing anxiety, preventing burnout, effective communication, and building resilience.




Written By Leah Marone
Originally Published On Psychology Today
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Leah Marone LCSW

As a psychotherapist, a former anxiety-ridden Division I athlete, and a mental wellness consultant, Leah Marone strives to not only empower but educate others on how to prioritize and improve their mental health. She received her master’s degree in clinical social work from the University of Texas in Austin. Prior to that, she graduated with a bachelor’s degree in psychology from Ball State University where she also played basketball. She has worked with major corporations, athletic teams, nonprofits, and podcasters all over the world. She currently writes for Psychology Today and has been a spotlight speaker at several conferences. Leah is a Midwesterner at heart, but currently lives outside of Charlotte, NC with her husband and two daughters.
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