5 Ways Being Single Is Way Better Than Being In A Bad Relationship

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When it comes to being in a relationship, it is always better to be single than be in an unhealthy and toxic one. If you think about it carefully, the perks of being single heavily outweighs the need to be in a bad relationship.

Whether itโ€™s the holiday season, wedding season, or just time for your annual office party, itโ€™s open season for finally (maybe) meeting the love of your life. Or it means that after everythingโ€™s said and done, youโ€™ll be starting a whole new year once again checking โ€œsingleโ€ on your 1040-EZ form.

Fear of being alone can cause people to make bad choices in love. In fact, according to a study by the University of Toronto (U of T), the fear of being single is a meaningful predictor of settling for less in relationships among both men and women.

โ€œThose with stronger fears about being single are willing to settle for less in their relationships,โ€ says lead author Stephanie Spielmann, a postdoctoral researcher at the University of Torontoโ€™s Department of Psychology. โ€œSometimes they stay in relationships they arenโ€™t happy in, and sometimes they want to date people who arenโ€™t very good for them.โ€

She adds, โ€œNow we understand that peopleโ€™s anxieties about being single seem to play a key role in these types of unhealthy relationship behaviors.โ€

โ€œIn our results we see men and women having similar concerns about being single, which lead to similar coping behaviors, contradicting the idea that only women struggle with a fear of being single,โ€ says co-author, Professor Geoff MacDonald of the University of Torontoโ€™s Department of Psychology. โ€œLoneliness is a painful experience for both men and women, so itโ€™s not surprising that the fear of being single seems not to discriminate on the basis of gender.โ€

Related: If Iโ€™m So Wonderful, Why Am I Still Single?

But if youโ€™re someone who doesnโ€™t feel pressure to settle and really embrace the perks of being single, here are a few things to remember before making a bad choice in love.

Here Are 5 Perks of Being Single That Are Better Than A Bad Relationship

1. You are enough.

The mainstream media is filled with really unhealthy messages regarding relationships. For example, many say that you need another person to make the holidays complete or to make you happy. These romantic notions work great in books and on the Hallmark Channel, but when taken literally, these ideas are destructive.

You are always a whole and indivisible being, capable of immense self-love, self-acceptance, and sexuality. Appreciate yourself and know that youโ€™re not alone in your singleness.

2. You made a choice to be single because you want to be single.

Although it sounds ass-backward, this is a paradigm shift that will help you in the long run. By consciously making the choice to be single, it will shift the way you view your life and how you live it when it comes to sharing that information with your co-workers, family, and friends. You are making this decision, so be proud

3. You are in control of your own life.

Instead of remaining the victim of your own fear of being single, take control. Tell yourself that you are actively remaining single for the holidays.

If you do plan to date every once in a while, make sure the dates are fun and give you ample time to get to know someone. Thereโ€™s no rush and no pressure, just fun.

4. Do whatever you want.

In the end, your relationship status is a personal choice โ€” there is no right or wrong, no good or bad. Instead of being the victim of cultural assumptions and societal norms, take the time to find out how you really would like to engage with other people.

What kind of status would you choose if there was no pressure, no assumptions? Take your time and find whatโ€™s best for you. If you think something is a good idea, then there have already been many others who think the same and have most likely blazed a trail for you to follow.

The way you engage in relationships (or donโ€™t) is not whatโ€™s important; what is important is doing it consciously, and doing whatโ€™s right for you.

Related: Stay Single Until You Meet A Forever Person That Looks Like This

5. Itโ€™s better to be single than in a bad relationship.

Getting into an unhealthy, bad relationship simply out of a fear of being alone is a really bad idea. It takes a lot of courage to take that leap into being single, but itโ€™s always, 100 percent of the time worth it when the relationship is causing more harm than good.


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