Why Being An Overthinker Is Actually A Good Thing: 5 Well-Thought-Out Reasons

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Being an overthinker is not always a bad thing, you know, even though it gets a bad rap from most people. Come to think of it, there are many reasons as to why itโ€™s actually a good thing being an overthinker.




I recently read an article about signs that you are an โ€œoverthinker.โ€

Spoiler alert: I am one.



The article irritated me because it positioned overthinking as a negative thing โ€“ as in we think about things more than we should. We obsess over things, overanalyze them, and drive ourselves and those around us crazy. And I will admit that yes, overthinking can be a bad thing, causing all kinds of unnecessary stress and anxiety.

There is no need to spend twenty minutes thinking about the way a coworker said โ€œgood morningโ€ as they walked by. However, I also argue that not all overthinking is bad. There is an important distinction that needs to be madeโ€ฆ

Sometimes overthinking is actually deep thinking. So on behalf of everyone who has been told they are overthinking, overanalyzing, or making things too complicated, I pose another way to look at it.




Here Are 5 Reasons Why Itโ€™s Actually Good To Be An Overthinker

1. We Want To Find Meaning In Everything.

Yes, this means we tend to analyze the sh*t out what you say and how you say it โ€“ down to the tone of your voice, look in your eyes, and placement of your hands. But it also means we are paying attention. We are listening. We not only care about what you are saying, but who you are behind your words.

We assume you are a person who is deep and deliberateโ€ฆ a person with intentionโ€ฆ and we want to figure you out. Would you prefer we see you as someone with no meaning behind your words and actions?

Related: 14 Things All Over-Thinkers Will Understand

2. We Canโ€™t Just Let Things Go.

This one really gets to me. I canโ€™t tell you how many times Iโ€™ve been told some version of โ€œyou just need to let it go.โ€ Usually that โ€œitโ€ is referring to a man or a relationship. Well, we canโ€™t let them go because we want to understand them. For us, there is a reason for every relationship and every interaction, and we need to know what it is.

We donโ€™t see things as happenstance, bad luck, or coincidence. We view our life โ€“ and your life โ€“ as part of a larger scheme. There is a bigger game at playโ€ฆ and our relationships have a purpose. So no, we wonโ€™t let anything go until we fully understand that reason.

But is that such a bad thing? To seek out the grander reasons in life? To want to understand the things and people that matter to us on the deepest level possible?




3. We Constantly Analyze People.

Constantly. Because people are fascinating. Everyone has a story โ€“ it is special and unique to them, yet universal at the same time. If you look close enough at anyone, you can find a connection point. If you seek to understand them โ€“ how they think and why they think that way โ€“ you can always find a way to relate.

And in relating, there is comfort. So yes, we are constantly analyzing you, your mother, your friends, and the person sitting at the table across from usโ€ฆ but thatโ€™s only because we care.

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4. Sure, We Hate Small Talk.

Yep. We donโ€™t care what shows youโ€™re watching or how you feel about the weather. Sorry not sorry that we want to actually get to know you. We want to know your dreams, your beliefs, your fears, and your thoughts on life.

Not so we can judge you or try to change your mindโ€ฆ so we can understand you; so we can discuss it with you; so we can have a meaningful conversation with you. Please explain to me how thatโ€™s a bad thing.

Related: How To Make Small Talk Meaningful: 9 Effortless Ways

5. Bottom Line โ€“ We Arenโ€™t โ€œOverโ€ Anything. 

We see the people and world around us as intricate and interesting. So we thinkโ€ฆ we reflectโ€ฆ we analyzeโ€ฆ a lot. Some may say itโ€™s too much โ€“ and thatโ€™s fine. But we arenโ€™t here to float through life not giving a shit about anything. We are here to root out the reasons for our relationships and learn the lessons life throws at us.

Our days are full of mysteries to solve, connections to make, and thoughts to explore. You might look at us and think we are making life more difficultโ€ฆ but I argue we are making it more meaningful.




Listen to The Better You Podcast with Kacie Main on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, iHeartRadio, Amazon, Pandora, or wherever you listen to podcasts. 


Written By Kacie Main
Originally Appeared In Thought Catalog

Now you know the reasons behind why itโ€™s actually a good thing to be an overthinker. Deeply thinking about everything and everyone around you, gives you the power to understand everything better and on a more intimate level. So, the next time someone calls you an overthinker, take it as a compliment!

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