When we break up it is not the specific person we miss, not their features per say and not their voice and not the size of their hands but rather the way they made us feel. Even when it is sometimes bad.
When we break up we long for that loving feeling, the passion, the talks, the thrill of going to see them or going out with them, the way you spend time around each other, how you fight and make up, how looking at each other would say it all, how it hurts when they do or say the wrong thing, how you need them to comfort you after a long bad day, how you dream of a lifetime with them….
We miss our life with them but certainly it is not just them. Even the sound of it is deeper.
Breakups are not only about relationships and love affairs, but all other elements we attach to which may have an immense effect on our lives. Losing someone to death, a dear friend moving out of the country, the thought of quitting your job, your kids growing up and detaching from you, even the maid who decides to marry and stop working for you.
All that accountability and emotional connection that grants us some balance and comfort. That melancholic feeling of breaking up with balance and comfort can be wrecking.
The pain of a breakup is over only when we stop reminiscing, when we lose the memory or replace it with a much stronger and more lasting ones; but it’s never easy…. the bigger and deeper the life you had with them, the harder it is get all of that out of your memory and reset your system. The strong the feelings they give you, the more this challenge can ruin your life… A consuming process that may kill you, suck the life out of you and turn you into a zombie.
Then and again all we may need is to get a little dose of how it used to feel and go back to them saying…. “I don’t miss you, I miss my life with you. I miss the person that I become when I am around you. I miss that dream I had of us. I miss US”.
A few moments later you realize you have missed your turn and that you better snap out of this self indulging stream of thoughts, get back to work and just deal with it!!!!
After all you only get to chose between drowning in a breakup or suffocating in a relationship!
Controlling partners often disguise their behavior as love or concern, making it difficult to recognize. Are you also in a relationship with someone who makes you feel loved at one point then in another constantly dictates your actions, thoughts, or even emotions?
These are classic signs of controlling partners. They often disguise their behavior as love or concern, making it difficult to recognize.
So if you want to identify these signs then below are what controlling partners do to you.
If you think you are in a marriage of convenience, you will know that it doesn’t feel like a fairy tale, rather it’s about maintaining the status quo. Maybe you are staying in this marriage because everything is “okay” and “stable”.
All the bills are getting paid on time, the house is comfortable, and the kids are happy to have both their parents under the same roof. Moreover, you don’t want to deal with the hassle that comes with filing for a divorce, so you just…stay.
Does this sound familiar? The unfortunate truth is that many married couples stay in a loveless marriage because dealing with the alternate option is scary. They’re together, but they’re not really together. They function more like roommates, business partners, or co-parents rather than lovers.
Knowing how to set boundaries is a game-changer—it’s how you protect your time, energy, and sanity without feeling guilty. Whether it’s with friends, family, or coworkers, setting boundaries helps you avoid burnout and unnecessary drama. Let’s talk about how to do it like a pro.
KEY POINTS
Upholding our boundaries means sometimes saying “no” when others wish we would say “yes.”
Setting boundaries can create conflict, even when our behavior is healthy and we act with kindness.
It’s normal to feel uneasy or even guilty after people react badly to our boundaries.
The month starts with Aquarius season in full swing, so it’s the perfect time to march to the beat of your own drum and forget about what anyone else thinks. The beginning of the month also brings a dreamy and almost magical energy between Venus, Neptune, and the North Node in Pisces. This is the vibe for deep, fated connections and romantic moments that feel straight out of a fantasy. Trust your gut—love is in the air, and it’s looking pretty rosy.
On February 4, Jupiter ends its retrograde in Gemini, meaning the floodgates to abundance are about to swing wide open. That same day, Venus moves into fiery Aries, giving love and pleasure a boost of passion. Get ready to make bold moves and go after what you want. Then, on February 9, Mercury has a moment of brilliance in Aquarius
The new moon in Aquarius is here to kick off a fresh lunar cycle! This powerful new moon, which happens on January 29 at 7:36 a.m. EST, brings a chance for new beginnings. As it falls in the innovative and forward-thinking sign of Aquarius, it’s a time to welcome change, creativity, and fresh ideas.
Aquarius is all about thinking outside the box, focusing on the bigger picture, and connecting with others. This new moon will highlight themes of friendship, community, and collaboration, making it a great time to set intentions related to teamwork and group activities.
With Aquarius encouraging radical shifts and new perspectives, you may feel a burst of inspiration or experience a shift in how you see the world. New moons are the perfect time to reflect and plan, so take advantage of this energy to make thoughtful
Some of us felt the pressure to grow up too fast… meet deadlines, succeed academically, and always be on top of things—before we were even ready. It turns out, this pressure is real for some children today, and it’s called Hurried Child Syndrome. Let’s explore more about this condition.
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