How To Be In Charge Of Who You Are Becoming

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Taking Charge Of Who You Are Becoming And Who You Are Meant To Be. Have you ever struggled with the feeling that you are stuck? Have you tried to take charge of who you are becoming instead of always resisting it?




If you want to feel more connected to yourself and more in charge of who you are becoming, we recommend three steps:

  1. Review
  2. Revise
  3. Reframe

Reviewing gets you in touch with your experiences.

It is the way to feel the feelings tied to your stories. When you take a close look at yourself and your thoughts, instead of avoiding them or just letting life happen, you are more fully engaged with what is you.



Revising is the way to let your past transform.

You get to take part in this. You canโ€™t change what happened but you can change the story you tell yourself. Revising doesnโ€™t mean dismissing. Instead, you revise your past from alternate points of view to discover strengths and moments of clarity in difficult situations

The purpose of reframing is to foster your becoming.

Reframing provides a new window and allows you to move forward, with all that youโ€™ve been, and evolve into someone new. The reframe gives you purpose and direction.

You are becoming

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Here is a simplified example:

Lin never wanted to sit and look at the actual events of her life. She preferred to say โ€œMy life sucks, thatโ€™s why I drink and shop. Itโ€™s the way I get through.โ€

Over the years she avoided herself more and she felt worse.

Finally, at 52, she decided she had to take charge.

โ€œThe script has gotten away from me and now Iโ€™m really a mess.โ€

So first we reviewed. For example, we looked at Linโ€™s childhood, when she felt frightened and alone. โ€œIt was painful to do, I felt a lot of emotions, but it was also a relief.โ€




Then we revised. โ€œLook at how that girl was clever. She actually survived so much.โ€

Then we reframed. โ€œI am not a mess. I am a woman who has always recreated herself.โ€

Now Lin doesnโ€™t have to run from the past and she can look towards whatโ€™s next.

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The truth is, by the time we reach our 50โ€™s we have been incubating a whole new self within ourselves. We canโ€™t let old stories keep her from coming through.

Your future self is waiting for you to imagine her and put her to work in the world.

Letโ€™s let her outโ€ฆ




Written By Cecilia Dintino
Originally Appeared In Twisting The Plot

You take control of your life whenย you accept that you alone are responsible for your actions.

If you want to be the best version of yourself and donโ€™t want to remain stagnant, then you have to take charge of who you are shaping up to be. Resisting this major change will only stop your growth. Accepting your personal growth and the fact that change is the only constant in life, being the absolute best version of yourself is not far away.


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